Main ek ladki ko like karta hun, wo bhi like karti hai...

I am a 24-year-old woman who will be getting married in six months times. I was involved with a friend for five months, but then due to some problems from his side we parted ways three months ago. My fiance has been chosen by my parents; he knows about my earlier affair and is willing to give me time to get over it. He is very understanding and caring, and I am sure I won't have any problems with him. However, the only problem is that I find him girlish. He is appearance is not what I would have liked in my partner. His way of talking, walking and mannerisms are some what gayish. I don't know if I should first consider his nature and understanding attitude or his appearance. What things are most important to sustain a marriage? I don't know if I will ever be able to love him, at least not like a wife should love her husband. He loves me very much and I don't want to hurt him at all. Kindly help me. 

Main ek ladki ko bahut like karta hu..